A Piece of Advice
Be a positive person in your life. Obvious? Yes. Easily attained? Not necessarily so. After years of cultivating my interest in life management and self-empowerment, I can tell you that positivity is the keystone to making your entire life one of success and achievement.
You have, no doubt, heard that there is great value in being a positive person, this is why today I’d like to give you another piece of advice:
Pause your life when you need to!
As in, spend time, every week, or even every day, managing your life.
I will explain what the benefits of pausing your life are, but first, let me ask you a few questions:
When was the last time you complained about something going wrong in your life?
How long have you allowed this problem to drag on, and drag you down?
Could you have spared yourself weeks of suffering if you had just “paused” your life for a moment and faced your problem head on?
To address your problem, you must push the “pause button” and evaluate what is going on in your life that is preventing you from finding the solution. By pausing your life – even if just for a couple of hours – you can readjust your life’s path, recalibrate your mind set, and dedicate time to what I call Life Management.
Think about the last time you went on an expensive vacation. Did you just hop in the car and hope that wherever you stopped would be a great place to spend a few weeks? No, of course you didn’t. You spent days planning where you would go and how you would get there. You read every website and guidebook that you could find to ensure that your vacation would be a great success. So if a vacation lasts only a few days, wouldn’t you want to spend a lot more energy and effort planning for a successful and productive lifetime?
Mastering Life Management
In the same way that being good at playing an instrument or developing a technical skill requires dedicated attention and resources, creating a successful life is a skill that needs equal resources and attention. If you don’t give adequate time to managing your life, you will suffer the consequences, the most obvious being totally overwhelmed. We often have this impression that we are managing our lives, but truthfully, we aren’t. We merely react to the unfolding of circumstances with the tools and knowledge we have learned from our parents, teachers, and friends. Many of these lessons came to us in our childhood, and now they need updating!
Our families, societies, governments and communities have designed systems for us that we often follow without question. The problem is that these systems do not bring solutions to all of our needs and often do not bring us the results we desire.
Don’t take me wrong. These systems are great and full of benefits. They are safe and an excellent launching pad. But they are not enough!
If you want to get results that are more relevant to your life - your personality, your likes and dislikes, and your desires - you have to design your own systems. You have to plan your life the way you want it to be, and you must gather the knowledge and know-how necessary to transform your life into what you want it to be. To create your own systems and plans for your life, it will require that you invest your time into the process. If you don’t put this time in, you will have to rely on systems that others have designed, and as a result, you will have to continue reacting to the circumstances created by others.
Personal Experience with Life Management
I spend about seven hours a week managing my own life. That is one hour for every 24 hours lived! When my life was at its most complicated, I would spend 14 hours a week on Life Management. Some people would call this crazy and a waste of time, but it is not. Better management of your life will make you intellectually sharper, more productive, and more able to grasp opportunities in many different areas of your life.
If I have to spend an extra seven hours a week solving a problem that would cause me a month of suffering, then these hours have been a good investment.By managing my life in my ideal way, I find that I need far less sleep, and I am able to put that time to a more productive use. By managing my life, I gain hours in my day. What could be more valuable to my life than extra time?
Here is what I do in my Life Management time:
- I express my desires and problems, and I gain clarity.
- I set and adjust my objectives.
- I set and adjust my priorities.
- I dedicate and allocate time to serve these priorities and objectives.
- I assign the tasks that need to be completed for the week.
- I track my performance with regards to my ability to commit to my behavioral promises - behaviors that serve my objectives of self-empowerment and well-being.
- I brush off, through Meaning Management, the unwanted influences that have impacted my consciousness and somehow affected me.
- I write in my journal, and through reflection, I learn from my mistakes.
- I plan a better week to avoid the traps I fell into in the previous one.
I invite you to do the same. If you want to learn more about the benefits of these techniques and how to bring them into your life, I invite you to take the Living Foundation Series and the Advanced Living Techniques Series when they become available. Or you can consult the numerous resources available online or in books that discuss the topic of self-empowerment.
But before you plug yourself into the internet or bury your head in a book, give yourself some time to:
- Identify a problem that has been dragging you down and that you have been procrastinating to solve.
- Identify one meaningful action you can take to address the problem.
- Find one influence that is preventing you from taking this action.
- Find a way to overcome the negativity in your life. Come to terms with your excuses and the narrowness of your perspective.
- Plan for the execution of this action. Set a reminder in your digital calendar or write it in your day planner.